Dad’s Heartwarming Letter to His Daughter About Mr. Right

When blogger and clinical psychologist Kelly Flanagan posted a  letter to his young daughter about picking Mr. Right, the response was overwhelming.    
Dr. Flanagan’s letter has received thousands of Facebook ‘likes’ since appearing on a popular blog called The Good Men Project. Below is the letter in full. Share your thoughts by scrolling down  to the comments box.

Dear Cutie-Pie,
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google.  Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most  popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was ‘How to keep  him interested’.
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how  to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways  to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to  ‘keep him interested’.
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul — in that  unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego — that you  are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of  interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter  for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in  the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable  of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in  you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be  kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table — as long as  he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t  stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me — as long as he  can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and  frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet — as long as he follows  his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong — as long as he gives you the space to  exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes — as long as he wakes up every  morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of  reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin — as long as he paints the  canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and  vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no  religion — as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment  of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he  and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in  common:
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do  to ‘keep him interested’ is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,

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